When having lunch with my favorite single gal pal, she mentioned something that peeked my interest. “Someone called me a man hater the other day,” she said. WHAT?! “Yeah. Someone called me a man hater the other day. I’m not a man hater. Just because I know what I want and deserve isn’t a bad thing. But if you’re being anything less I’m going to call you out on it!” As she should! As we ALL should! So why do we get the label of “man hater” because we know what we deserve and we won’t stand for anything less?...
I believe we gain the “man hater” label when we become a little too hard to handle. When we’re no longer satisfied being in the submissive role. We don’t bow down just to be in a relationship. We know our worth and we settle for nothing less. We have our own mind and many of us are controlling our own destiny without relying on a man to produce it for us. So in reality, it’s not a “man hater” label we should gain. It’s a “not putting up with your misconception of me anymore” label.
Some men LOVE that they have a partner that is strong and can hold their own. A partner who will challenge them without agreeing just to agree. A partner that can take care of herself, the whole family, neighbor kids, pets, work, and house duties all within less than 24 hours only to do it all over again the next day! Taking away any one or more things from this list does not mean they are any less of a partner of power either.
It actually seems to be the men that can’t handle such power who are the ones that are handing out the “men hater” label to women. I mean, they have to have some excuse to share with their buddies why they haven’t been snatched up yet, because the truth doesn’t help make them shine. And for the girls that give the “man hater” label to their friends, co-workers, etc? Well, they do it because they haven’t learned how to be that powerful woman that knows what she deserves and won’t stand for anything less just yet.
So how do we react to such obvious misconceptions of ourselves?...Well, we could call the person out and try to explain all the ways they are wrong, however, that will most likely fall on deaf ears. So why not smile and say, “Thank you.” And when they are taken back you can say, “It’s okay. You’ll find your power one day.” Maybe we will “man hate” until we find one we actually like. The one that is worthy to have us. Maybe we will “man hate” because we’re too busy making a difference and changing the world while enjoying friends, family, and life. Either way, I don’t mind “man hating” right now, because quite frankly I don’t deserve anything less than what I deserve. And neither do YOU!