No offense, but it is quite saddening that in an age with such advancement “being single on V-Day” is still considered the end of the world to most people, and I am not talking about all actual single people either. Is the world not negative and frustrating enough right now? Are you still missing the fact that you are worth so much more than nothing when you carry the label of being “single”?
Yesterday was International Day of Self Love. Yes, it’s a real holiday. You can check it out on Google. I’m not making this up! It just happens to get foreshadowed due to Valentine’s Day being the very next day. Much like those that have birthdays to celebrate around other massively commercialized holidays such as Christmas and New Year’s I suppose.
However, don’t fret that you didn’t get to celebrate, because whether you are single or not, Valentine’s Day is your day to continue on celebrating! Why? Because it is a day of celebrating LOVE! And who better to love and celebrate you than YOU! For you are a Storm Chaser, with a minimum bid of $1 million of self-worth.
Now, I realize that maybe this is a new concept for you. Maybe you have gotten sucked into the constant negativity of the world. Maybe you are not sure how one would celebrate their awesomeness on a day that focuses on couples only. Here is a list of 10 things to help you out a bit.
“They all gonna say what they wanna say anyway, might as well give’em something, might as well give’em something to talk about. I don’t really care if they wanna stare, look at me. Might as well give’em something, might as well give’em something to talk about.” -Daya
People will always judge others. They will always have something to say even if they have no clue what they are talking about. So why not determine what they talk about?
This life is about choices. You have the choice to considered this a day of sorrow and doom, and allow yourself to get sucked into the overwhelming negativity that this world has to offer. Or you can make a change for the better, and consider this day to be what it truly is supposed to be about. Love. Even if the only one you have to celebrate this holiday is you. The choice is yours Storm Chaser. What will it be?...
My girl, April, is on speed dial for anything and everything, because no one knows me better than her and she’s my mama bear.
My girl, Erin, is my ongoing supply of inspiration, positivism, and motivation. She also doubles as a bomb expert and guilty pleasure excursion guide.
My girl, Hillary, helps me develop my stalking skills and keeps me up when I can’t get there myself.
My girl, Laura, is my alibi.
My girl, Patrice, is my business advisor and bail money when needed, because she’s the most savvy person I know when it comes to finances.
My girl, Tausha, is my health monitor and funk dance partner.
My girl, Cathy, is my prime business advisor, supporter, and mentor.
Yes, I and my girls pretty much rule the world. There are countless others that make my life better and help me be the best Storm Chaser I can possibly be, and I love and appreciate you for that every day. Happy National Girlfriend’s Day everyone!
You are many things Storm Chaser….
You are NOT the following….
Stop focusing on what you are NOT, and focus on what you are meant to be. The positive force that comes to remove all negativity. A Storm Chaser. The best thing anyone could possibly want to be! Are your shoes laced up?....Because it is time to run once more. Let’s do this!
There are many things to celebrate tomorrow. It is the celebration of our great nation, and the freedom that we earned. It is a time to spend with family and friends, while enjoying the act of blowing things up. It is also a great day to celebrate YOUR freedom and independence. So go on girl! Go celebrate YOU!
Remember the phrase, “Your soulmate will come if you stop looking for them”? This still remains to be true today. Stop looking. You have your soulmate. Your soulmate is you.
I have never really understood why we had to fit our lives into a box. The box I am speaking about is the check box on forms; race, color, gender, marital status. Ah yes, that glorious “marital status” section of all forms. The box where you declare if you are: Single/Married/Widowed/Divorced.
Divorced- a term to state “freedom” for some, “fail” for others. No matter if you chose to get divorced, or if it was chosen for you, someone is typically hurt in the process. So why should I have to be reminded of a bad couple of marriages, because you refuse to let me label myself as “single” instead?
Well guess what?.... I’m doing it anyway. That is the label I earned when the papers were finalized. You do not get to determine if I am labeled as walking away from a bad marriage (or two). Only I get to decide what happens to me after my marriages. I became Single.
Single to determine my own future. Single to put myself first. Single to love myself without anyone else’s approval. Single to try new things. Single to get uncomfortable and meet new people. Single to open my heart back up and see what the world has to hold. Single to be a Storm Chaser and conquer any storm.
So, if you are expecting me to check the box labeled “Divorced,” you will forever be waiting. I am Single; and I am LOVING IT!
One of the best things about being single is that you can have friends of all kinds. Single. Married. Divorced. Insane. Creative. Inspirational. Well, you get the idea. So when someone reaches out to you after way too long of a break, you don’t hesitate to say YES! Because when you have really good friends you can leave where you left off without missing a beat. Or simply know everything already because it’s insanely simple to stalk people on Facebook. Either way, life is full of surprises and friendships that are worth holding on to no matter how long of a “break” you end up taking because of life’s craziness. You’ll be amazed at what you can get out of a single night!
Maybe you spend a whole car ride laughing so hard that you’re ready to pee your pants. Maybe you get the advice that you so desperately needed that you never thought someone had to give you in the first place. Maybe you try to knock something off your bucket list. Maybe you end up seeing the worst wanna be male review show that resembled more like really bad porn than anything else because someone unknowingly bought a Groupon with a very big misconception to what was in store. Maybe friends with humor, people watching, and MC’s that needed to put more clothes on than take them off makes the $20 ticket worth it in the end. Because when it comes down to it, friendship makes any situation worth it.
So don’t pass up a chance to hang out with a friend. Single. Divorced. Married. Remarried. Insane. Okay, if they’re insane just stick to the routine of always having bail money ready and then go have some fun…But good friends are hard to come by. And no matter how crazy life can get, you should always make time for those most special to you. Even if you only see them every once in a while. You're Single! You're not alone. Yes, there's a difference.
Since when did a holiday that focused on pure love become only about a couple’s love?...Valentine’s Day marketing mixes, commercials, Hallmark cards, jewelry stores, and anywhere else you turn your head promotes that this glorious holiday about love is only worth celebrating if you have a significant other. Society tells us, “you poor, poor dear. I’m sure you’ll find someone soon…” Well, luckily you have. And that someone is YOU!
So how do you get around being single on a day focused on couples? You remember you ARE you’re better half!
1. Dinner reservations are a lot easier with a shorter wait time for a table for one so go treat yourself girl!!
2. Who says someone has to send flowers to your office to show that you’re loved? Pick your favorites and decorate yourself!
3. Even if your time is too short, meet your favorite gal pal at the movies (maybe that scandalous 50 Shades movie…lol) and enjoy being in her influential and forever powerful presence.
4. No one said you couldn’t get a great group of women together and go party on the town with red/pink drinks and a whole lot of laughs…
5. There’s no stress of trying to pick out the perfect gift for that special someone, because you already know exactly what this special someone loves!
6. There’s no shame in buying yourself something shiny and wearing it proudly. You’ve earned it! Don’t let anyone put you down for it.
7. Sorry Erin, but single or not I’m still going to scarf down those chocolate covered strawberries….
My point is don’t let anyone convince you that you belong inside, hiding, and eating a carton of ice cream while watching romantic comedies and wondering why that can’t be you. The reason you’re alone is because you haven’t come across a single soul that has been more worthy of your love than the love you give yourself. Settling is NOT an option, nor will it ever be. Don’t get down because we are stuck swimming in a tadpole pond with no prince in sight. The queen is already ruling within you! Quit waiting for some frog to turn into something he’s not. Spend this holiday loving the only person that truly deserves the most of your love. YOU!
Who knew such a simple sentence would bring so much horror to a person’s face? “Table for one please.” This was the sentence I uttered to the hostess at the Olive Garden, who looked around behind me to see if anyone was following me.
“Will your party be joining you?” she said.
“No. The party is already here,” I said with a grin.
“We only have large booths available, so do you want to wait until a smaller table is available or simply sit at the bar?” she stated wearily.
“I’ll take a booth please.”
“Seriously?!” escaped from her mouth. I simply smiled and followed the waiter, who also seemed very confused, to the largest booth available. I bounced around until I was in the middle and satisfied.
Five waiters/waitresses, and a manager, each stopped to ask if my other party would be joining me soon. When I stated, “No party. Just me!” with a smile, the look of horror that ran across their faces was priceless! I mean seriously, when did enjoying one’s own company turn into such a horror film for anyone to watch?
Don’t get me wrong, I panicked just like you do when someone first suggested that I spend some alone time with myself and learn to love me. I can’t do that! People will look at me! They will know I am alone, and they will think there’s something “wrong with me”! But sometimes it’s only by getting a little uncomfortable that we discover truly amazing things about ourselves. I did not have this confidence on my first attempt. I took a book to make sure that no one thought I was alone. I didn’t want anyone thinking that I had no friends or was that stereotypical crazy cat lady. When I arrived home, my first thought was, “You know what? That wasn’t so bad.” So I tried again.
This time I didn’t take a book, and I added a movie afterwards! Why had I not done this before?! My love for quality time with me continued to grow to the point that sometimes I now prefer the quietness of myself to the company of others. I also realized that I was the best date ever! Great company, funny, and I am always anxious to see me again. HA!
So when did society decide that this was a bad thing? Are we so caught up with what people think of us that we can’t even appreciate ourselves? And by people, I mean complete strangers who couldn’t care less who you are or what you’re doing. When I suggested to a friend that she should just see the movie alone since she couldn’t find anyone to go with, she protested, “Oh I can’t do that!”
“Umm, why not? It’s pitch black, and I promise you that even if the movie is absolutely horrible, people still won’t be assessing your apparent friendlessness.”
It wasn’t until I stuck my toe outside of my comfort zone that I learned I’m truly a catch! And quality time to reflect on and appreciate who I am and who I am becoming has become my favorite part of the day.
This is not to say that I don’t love hanging out with my friends and family. But I learn a lot about myself by simply taking myself out on a date. I encourage everyone to try it at least once! And from a girl who once believed, like you, that she wasn’t brave enough to enjoy time alone, it’s now a pleasure to confidently say, “Table for one, please!”