I’m not sure when it became acceptable for a child to lie and try to destroy an adult’s life by reporting them for abuse when they had never been touched, simply because they were told they couldn’t go to school looking like a hooker and was forced to dress like the lady they should aspire to always be. Or when kids started the great runaway routine by using Snapchat just because they didn’t like what a parent or family member said to them. Never mind the massive increase of child trafficking currently, or the fact that it simply destroys their loved ones hearts not knowing if they’re safe. When did it suddenly become okay for a child to not only bully other children, but bully their own parents making them feel helpless for fear of losing them all together? When did they simply just stop caring how their actions affected other people?
Today’s world saddens me greatly and makes my heart ache daily, and I absolutely hate it sometimes. Although I know some really amazing kids and adults that are doing so many great things, there's still enough bad that is outweighing any good being done. I was so excited to be asked from a former student to teach her a solo for a spring performance. My heart swelled! I had not been able to teach in YEARS! I couldn’t wait to get started immediately! However, through communicating through the teacher, mother, and daughter I quickly had to make a very difficult choice. You see, the daughter misinterpreted the requirements. When the mother tried to assist, the daughter lashed out like no other. This is not the first time nor I’m afraid to be the last. Although the mother was going out of her way to help the daughter, by simply telling her that she had misinterpreted the information, suddenly the mother was being bullied even worse then I witness the kids do to each other daily.
So I made the choice to sacrifice my own happiness of teaching again in order to prove that bullying would never be accepted in my book in an attempt to be a part of the solution and not the problem. Of course another family member just gave in and gave the daughter what she wanted instead of holding her accountable for her actions, therefore, only teaching the child that if she’s nasty enough to the world they will eventually give in and let her have whatever she wanted.
I do not claim to be any kind of a child psychologist, but I can tell you that I have seen the ending of this story all too often. That child eventually grows up and becomes an adult. Most of the time they don’t “grow out of it” as some people will claim. They just simply continue to terrorize the world until they forever get whatever they want. But how does that help society as a whole? I personally get told "no" constantly, and it makes me a better person for it. Mostly because I find other ways to achieve my goals and get the satisfaction of proving people wrong. However, I never do it in a malicious way to harm others.
So how do we stop this vicious cycle that is causing our suicide rate to exceed limits like never before? I personally am taking steps to build a safe place for those that suffer from bullying at any age. I will continue to tell those kids “no”, because even if they do think they know everything already they have no freaking clue. I was that kid. We all were at one point in our lives. But there were plenty of people that stepped into my life and taught me to have Style, Class, & a little bit of Sass instead in order to get what I wanted while gaining respect in the process. They told me what I didn't want to hear more often then not. They weren't always right, but their intentions were in the right place. I rarely got what I wanted handed to me, and now I have great pride in getting things for myself on a regular basis. I may not always agree with those that disagree with me, but I respect them for their point of views and honesty. So why have so many people given up on what has proven to work for centuries beyond our years? When did we decide to just take the easy way out and give into our bullies instead of fighting like hell to put a stop to them?
Because bullies don't stop. Why would they when it's easy, convenient, and works so well for them? When have you ever changed willingly without being forced to because there was no other way? Just think. What would happen if we stopped giving in to the bullies of today? Would they not be forced to find another way to get what they want if we didn't allow their bullying to have any power over us? Wouldn’t you rather be a part of the solution instead of the problem?
*** If you feel like you are being bullied in anyway, whether from friends, family members, coworkers, or strangers, please seek help. There’s no shame in asking for help to live a better and healthier life. Be the Change that this world so desperately needs by stomping out bullying. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) today.
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