I have never really understood why we had to fit our lives into a box. The box I am speaking about is the check box on forms; race, color, gender, marital status. Ah yes, that glorious “marital status” section of all forms. The box where you declare if you are: Single/Married/Widowed/Divorced.
Divorced- a term to state “freedom” for some, “fail” for others. No matter if you chose to get divorced, or if it was chosen for you, someone is typically hurt in the process. So why should I have to be reminded of a bad couple of marriages, because you refuse to let me label myself as “single” instead?
Well guess what?.... I’m doing it anyway. That is the label I earned when the papers were finalized. You do not get to determine if I am labeled as walking away from a bad marriage (or two). Only I get to decide what happens to me after my marriages. I became Single.
Single to determine my own future. Single to put myself first. Single to love myself without anyone else’s approval. Single to try new things. Single to get uncomfortable and meet new people. Single to open my heart back up and see what the world has to hold. Single to be a Storm Chaser and conquer any storm.
So, if you are expecting me to check the box labeled “Divorced,” you will forever be waiting. I am Single; and I am LOVING IT!
A girl just trying to find her way, stepping outside of her comfort zone, trying new things, and making new friends along the way!