I’m not sure when it became acceptable for a child to lie and try to destroy an adult’s life by reporting them for abuse when they had never been touched, simply because they were told they couldn’t go to school looking like a hooker and was forced to dress like the lady they should aspire to always be. Or when kids started the great runaway routine by using Snapchat just because they didn’t like what a parent or family member said to them. Never mind the massive increase of child trafficking currently, or the fact that it simply destroys their loved ones hearts not knowing if they’re safe. When did it suddenly become okay for a child to not only bully other children, but bully their own parents making them feel helpless for fear of losing them all together? When did they simply just stop caring how their actions affected other people?
Today’s world saddens me greatly and makes my heart ache daily, and I absolutely hate it sometimes. Although I know some really amazing kids and adults that are doing so many great things, there's still enough bad that is outweighing any good being done. I was so excited to be asked from a former student to teach her a solo for a spring performance. My heart swelled! I had not been able to teach in YEARS! I couldn’t wait to get started immediately! However, through communicating through the teacher, mother, and daughter I quickly had to make a very difficult choice. You see, the daughter misinterpreted the requirements. When the mother tried to assist, the daughter lashed out like no other. This is not the first time nor I’m afraid to be the last. Although the mother was going out of her way to help the daughter, by simply telling her that she had misinterpreted the information, suddenly the mother was being bullied even worse then I witness the kids do to each other daily.
So I made the choice to sacrifice my own happiness of teaching again in order to prove that bullying would never be accepted in my book in an attempt to be a part of the solution and not the problem. Of course another family member just gave in and gave the daughter what she wanted instead of holding her accountable for her actions, therefore, only teaching the child that if she’s nasty enough to the world they will eventually give in and let her have whatever she wanted.
I do not claim to be any kind of a child psychologist, but I can tell you that I have seen the ending of this story all too often. That child eventually grows up and becomes an adult. Most of the time they don’t “grow out of it” as some people will claim. They just simply continue to terrorize the world until they forever get whatever they want. But how does that help society as a whole? I personally get told "no" constantly, and it makes me a better person for it. Mostly because I find other ways to achieve my goals and get the satisfaction of proving people wrong. However, I never do it in a malicious way to harm others.
So how do we stop this vicious cycle that is causing our suicide rate to exceed limits like never before? I personally am taking steps to build a safe place for those that suffer from bullying at any age. I will continue to tell those kids “no”, because even if they do think they know everything already they have no freaking clue. I was that kid. We all were at one point in our lives. But there were plenty of people that stepped into my life and taught me to have Style, Class, & a little bit of Sass instead in order to get what I wanted while gaining respect in the process. They told me what I didn't want to hear more often then not. They weren't always right, but their intentions were in the right place. I rarely got what I wanted handed to me, and now I have great pride in getting things for myself on a regular basis. I may not always agree with those that disagree with me, but I respect them for their point of views and honesty. So why have so many people given up on what has proven to work for centuries beyond our years? When did we decide to just take the easy way out and give into our bullies instead of fighting like hell to put a stop to them?
Because bullies don't stop. Why would they when it's easy, convenient, and works so well for them? When have you ever changed willingly without being forced to because there was no other way? Just think. What would happen if we stopped giving in to the bullies of today? Would they not be forced to find another way to get what they want if we didn't allow their bullying to have any power over us? Wouldn’t you rather be a part of the solution instead of the problem?
*** If you feel like you are being bullied in anyway, whether from friends, family members, coworkers, or strangers, please seek help. There’s no shame in asking for help to live a better and healthier life. Be the Change that this world so desperately needs by stomping out bullying. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) today.
While watching a Hallmark Christmas movie with my mother, they were trying to come up with reasons why they preferred to be single and not in a relationship. After the list included dancing around naked at 2am, not having to sacrifice doing what you want to do for someone else's selfish needs, and others were said I exclaimed, "EXACTLY! This is why I'm still single!"
My mother responded with her usual, "Single and lonely." And with those three short words suddenly I found myself very irritated to the core. Not because of the specific comment. Let's face it. It's not the only time I have been told that single equaled lonely. It was the fact that even after 39 years, this woman continued to know absolutely nothing about her own daughter.
So many people I cross paths with usually give me the look of horror followed by a pity glance, pat on the hand, and some ridiculous comment like, "You'll find someone eventually dear. Don't lose hope." I'm sorry, what? Since when did not having a man equaled losing all hope in life and one's self? Oh yeah...since the beginning of time. (She says rolling her eyes sarcastically)....
Unfortunately for most, even with a new year there lacks a new perspective on life. You see, I am quite content being alone. I'm an amazing date, I make myself laugh into tears, and I never get tired of being with me. I wake up content and go to bed content, because since starting Chasing Stormi almost five years ago I have learned the most important lesson I could ever learn in a lifetime: I am enough. I know exactly what I am worth and what I deserve. I'm just not willing to settle for second best or even 137th best just to "not be single anymore". This tends to blow people's mind, which is hilarious to me, but it's a matter of perspective to be honest. Old perspectives, however, continue to outweigh the new.
Some people are lucky to find their soulmates early in life, marry their high school sweethearts, and then die together like in The Notebook. Others find them a little later in life, and that's okay too. Some people would rather being in a relationship, even if it's the worst fit possible just to not be alone. Others are titled "People Pleasers" that don't care who they're with as long as they're making people happy. Much like Julia Robert's character in The Runaway Bride, they find themselves not knowing how they like their own eggs. Sadly, not all of us wise up to actually run when we're standing at the alter and end up signing the paperwork anyway, just accepting that we will never be able to tell someone how to cook our own darn eggs. The majority of the population typically falls into one of these four categories.
Some people, however, are put on a different destiny path. It can contain a lot of heartache, loss of identity and self worth, depression, and even worse. Then one day they're forced to face their true destiny, which is to use all of these crazy life experiences and help others that are suffering. To let them know not only that they are not alone, but help them see just how valuable they are. It's not a destiny path that many are strong enough to go down, or that others understand while standing on the outside. But just because someone's perspective of you or your life choices doesn't make sense to them doesn't make it any less right for you. After all, it's your destiny path and not theirs.
Either way, my perspective has adjusting for 2019. I'm just fine being "lonely", because being "lonely" means I am not settling for less than I deserve. That's not to say that someone won't join me on my journey down the road. It just means that unworthy freeloaders will have to find another ride to ride. This one is closed until you prove you're worth me and my precious time. I will continue to be proud of how far I have come from eating everyone's version of eggs, and finally knowing exactly how I want mine. I'm making sure I get them ordered that way too. It has not just been in the dating arena either that these changes have been witnessed. There's nothing wrong with wanting a better job that allows you to work smarter and not harder while still covering your bills on a single income. There's also nothing wrong with remaining distant from very toxic people, even if they are blood or not.
I realized on a recent visit that no matter how much other people continue to stay the same, I have not. I am forever growing. 2018 may have not been the best year for me. Neither was 2017 to be honest. However, realizing your true worth and the true power you hold is the key to having the greatest year of success. I have witnessed first-hand just how far I have personally gone, and I haven't even started yet! So good-bye 2018, cause this girl is about to take 2019 by storm!
The hardships of the holidays does not discriminate by gender, age, race, or any other characteristic that helps to define who you are. It simply hits and takes names as it goes. Maybe you miss someone that helped to make you a little more whole while you watch other loved ones enjoy life around them. Maybe finances has you working multiple jobs, lacking sleep, energy, and quite frankly sanity. Maybe you are losing your home, job, facing sickness, battling life altering events, or even a combination of all of these.
It may seem easy for others to say, “Keep your chin up!” Or even the simple, “You’ve got this!” They can’t possibly know what you’re going through after all. You might even find yourself getting frustrated with loved ones or even strangers that try to help you focus on just getting through one day at a time. However, this is not just a season of giving and reflecting. Winter may come and cause the vegetation in your area to die, but that does not mean this is the time to stop growing. If given the opportunity, I’d bet you would be surprised to find out exactly how much your cheerleaders in your life are truly suffering.
I know it’s hard for some not to get irritated by the earlier and earlier arrival of Christmas in the retail world. I’m pretty sure Halloween and Thanksgiving still are listed on the calendar to arrive first. It’s hard not to miss those that can’t celebrate with us in the present. It’s hard to not stress about coming up with the extra money in order to buy those perfect gifts for our perfect someone. It’s hard not to stress about not making ends meet for yet another month and counting. It’s hard not to get sucked into the constant negativity of the media, the lack of sun and vitamin D, and the lack of warmth in general. (Unless you’re already hiding in warmer climates of course…)
Life is hard. If it were easy, well, then most people wouldn’t have something to complain about. However, those same people wouldn’t be growing either. Just because the foliage has come to a halt does not mean you have to. So I give you this challenge for the next 30 days….
My answer is yes. More than you can imagine! So take the next 30 days as an opportunity to not only grow in the dead of winter, but to help others not only survive but also thrive. Don’t be afraid to document your journey below!
Some people are experts at painting the perfect picture. Whether it is a pitch for a product, a job that promises the world you’ve always wanted to live in, or a relationship with what seems to be your true prince charming. However, we must listen to our inner intuition when the painting starts to collect a lot of holes. Much like the paintings in a museum, they become a lot less valuable with tears and holes, and are usually rejected for long-term use. Now some people are excellent at trying to repaint the picture to cover up the holes, however, the holes still remain, thus the picture still holding no true value. So when your inner intuition starts pointing out the holes, it’s imperative that we listen. Because no matter how many times the painting is repainted, the holes make it worthless giving you two options…1. Try to ignore the holes and continue to believe the painting still holds value until everything crashes in front of us when it’s time to cash it in, or 2. Walk away.
If you choose the second option, then know there’s no need to beat yourself up. You should be proud that you listened to your inner intuition, and can now find a picture with the true value it should that is worth your time and effort. If you choose the first option, there’s no need to beat yourself up. Just know that you will be paying way more than the painted picture will ever be worth, and will never find true happiness with it or yourself and it will hurt more the longer you try to convince yourself there are no holes in the actual painting.
Someone recently told me that if there’s no true value in the reward, you will have no desire to work towards achieving it. This is very true, which is why it was so easy to walk away from the current picture that had nothing but holes in it to begin with. I just wanted it to be whole to help make my dreams a reality. However, I have to take the time to be proud of myself, because three years earlier I would have still been making myself sick trying to convince myself that I had to keep the repainted picture in order to survive. This time, although my future is still not set in stone, I am happier for knowing that whatever comes next is worth more than a picture full of holes no matter how good someone can paint it. For we are true Storm Chasers! And we never fully invest in a painting that doesn’t have a true value of anything less than ourselves!
I know, I know. I have failed us both. I let life get in the way of making time to write, and I have been regretting it the entire time. So despite still having to take one more class due to Park’s error, I was determined to take myself on Chasing Stormi Adventure as a graduation gift to myself. As you already know, I am not a fan of heights. However, the hidden Kansas City gem of Go Ape Adventures seemed like the perfect challenge to get me back on track.
Described best as a 2-3 hour exhilarating outdoor activity through the forest canopy of Swope Park, this high-ropes course included suspended obstacle courses with zip lines and all! I invited my partner in crime, Kisha, knowing a few things. This girl is up for any adventure, is in ridiculous shape (which I was not), and would be the perfect support system to keep me going. Besides, if I fell at any moment she would have to report it, mostly because I would be her ride home….ha!
So here I was, in no athletic shape whatsoever, about to take on the added challenge of being suspended in the trees with no net below. Oh wait, you also get to hook yourself up to each line before working your way across with no assistance. As Kisha was so kind to point out, “If you fall and die then it’s on you.” I said she was going to be a great support system, right?
This was the same girl that insisted we take the extreme course option whenever there was a choice, gracefully made it through like a ballerina showing no real struggle, and politely shook all of the ropes before it was my turn while laughing because she knew she was pushing my comfort level, but I still loved her anyway as she shouted, “Go big or go home!” because I knew she was right. Now before you get the wrong idea, I should also tell you that she spent a majority of the course telling me how proud of me she was, and dusted off as much of the forest off my back that she could from my poor zip line landings. Yes, this girl is my Storm Chasing Sister, and I will be forever in the debt of the Universal Intelligence that put her in my path.
During our 1 hour and 42 minute adventure, (I told you she was quick) I came to realize that following things:
I dare you to check out this hidden gem of KC. I dare you to push yourself to strategically get from one tree to another with simply ropes and possibly boards. I dare you to practice your company team building! I dare you to land perfectly from the freaking zip lines like Kisha could! I dare you to challenge yourself, so that if nothing else you can celebrate each little victory and see how far YOU have come.
No offense, but it is quite saddening that in an age with such advancement “being single on V-Day” is still considered the end of the world to most people, and I am not talking about all actual single people either. Is the world not negative and frustrating enough right now? Are you still missing the fact that you are worth so much more than nothing when you carry the label of being “single”?
Yesterday was International Day of Self Love. Yes, it’s a real holiday. You can check it out on Google. I’m not making this up! It just happens to get foreshadowed due to Valentine’s Day being the very next day. Much like those that have birthdays to celebrate around other massively commercialized holidays such as Christmas and New Year’s I suppose.
However, don’t fret that you didn’t get to celebrate, because whether you are single or not, Valentine’s Day is your day to continue on celebrating! Why? Because it is a day of celebrating LOVE! And who better to love and celebrate you than YOU! For you are a Storm Chaser, with a minimum bid of $1 million of self-worth.
Now, I realize that maybe this is a new concept for you. Maybe you have gotten sucked into the constant negativity of the world. Maybe you are not sure how one would celebrate their awesomeness on a day that focuses on couples only. Here is a list of 10 things to help you out a bit.
People will always judge others. They will always have something to say even if they have no clue what they are talking about. So why not determine what they talk about?
This life is about choices. You have the choice to considered this a day of sorrow and doom, and allow yourself to get sucked into the overwhelming negativity that this world has to offer. Or you can make a change for the better, and consider this day to be what it truly is supposed to be about. Love. Even if the only one you have to celebrate this holiday is you. The choice is yours Storm Chaser. What will it be?...
When I first read this, I knew I had to try it immediately! What a great way to start a new year off right! This is definitely NOT an activity to surpass! I reached out to Jenny to see if I could share it with my readers as well, because it's an experience not to be missed by my Storm Chasers. So here you go. Some of the best advice to get your 2018 started off right!
Things are intense astrologically, and you may have heard that Mercury is Retrograde, which scares the crap out of some people. It can cause technology issues and communications between people can seem upside down. Misunderstandings can happen. It is so big for some people, they won’t even sign a contact during that time. It’s over on the 23rd so you are good heading into 2018. The holiday season can be a joyful and happy time or an overwhelming and chaotic for others. This year has been intense with the politics, hurricanes, earthquakes, wildfires, and the #metoo movement. But all that aside, I want you to have the best 2018 ever and one way to use Mercury during it’s retrograde period is to clean up loose ends, finish projects, and you can look back on the past to see what you need to heal. Get your journal out. Try this out if you want to change or want some area of your life to change. Do this exercise even if you don’t believe astrology has any effect on your life, because any personal development, self-help, or work you do on yourself is ALWAYS a good idea.
Write a love letter to:
1. Your 2017 Self so far.
2. 2017 itself.
3. Right now.
4. Your 2018 Self.
5. 2018 itself.
It’s all energy. You will gain a-ha’s, awareness, intuition, and many gifts by tapping into both the past and the future while staying aligned and present in the NOW.
Do not fret and make this complicated. Just journal a flow from 2–3 sentences all the way to a page long for each one. Everyone is different.
For the past, the point is to see what you need to let go of, release, and forgive so you do not bring any shame, blame, guilt, fear, doubt, or limiting beliefs forward into the future. See the positive of your year and have gratitude for the lessons learned and the love and joy had.
Right now even if you are stressed, take a deep breath and write: “Dear Now, Thank you for my breath. I am happy to be alive in this body…” List even gratitude, appreciation, like, love, enjoyment of right now in your life.
Into the future, bless it, send love & light, prayers, good wishes, high vibes, goals, intentions, things you are excited about. Think about a clean slate on which to create. Instead of a “bucket” list, think “Bliss” list. What would bring you bliss?
What experiences would you like to have? Even ask: “How much fun can I have in 2018? What would bring me joy that I have not even thought of? How magical can my life feel? How many miracles can I see manifested easily in my life?”
Have fun with this. Play. This is self-care just like bubble baths are. Very important to nourish your body, mind, and soul. Mindset work and centered energy will make next year different. Look within. There is so much there.
Have a wonderful and magical 2018!
Wishing you a fired-up life,
Jenny G. Perry
Goddess Life Coach
Because Today I have Purpose.
Because Today I have Goals.
Because Today I have a Destiny to Fill
That makes my Soul whole.
Because I am a #StormChaser.
Because the Future was Shown to Me,
And I am More than Ready to Accept it.
Because I am Here to Help You #SurviveOurStorms.
Because Today I Cannot be Beat Down.
Because Today, I put my Tennis Shoes on.
Because Today, I’m Ready to Run.
Are You Ready?...
If Not, Do Not Worry.
I've got you.
I’m strong because I am a Storm Chaser.
I choose to love and appreciate myself and others for their awesomeness.
I choose not to give up.
I have days when I am weak and I may not even be able to put my running shoes on, but I refuse to stay weak and do nothing forever.
Life is meant to be lived.
Life is meant to be “uncomfortable.”
My fire to conquer my personal storms and help others love themselves gives me the strength to keep going.
I am strong because I have people who love and support me.
I’m strong because I am a fighter, and being super stubborn doesn’t hurt either. HA!
I am strong because I have a destiny that needs to be fulfilled.
I am strong because others need me, and I know my worth and what I deserve.
Fear can paralyze.
Fear can make you sick.
Fear can hold you in the past.
Fear can keep you comfortable.
But fear can also be…
An opportunity to grow.
An opportunity to tie your shoe laces.
An opportunity to run.
How will Fear control you today Storm Chaser?....
From the second we open our eyes to start our day, we have a choice.
A choice to get caught up in the stresses and negativity of life,
Or to be positive and make someone smile.
I don’t always make the right choice personally.
But today, I chose to smile and inspire.
And sing. And dance. And laugh. And play.
Because I am a Storm Chaser and this is what I was born for.
What do you choose to do today?...
When I first saw the Insane Inflatable Race in 2015, I signed up immediately. I knew it would be the perfect adventure for Chasing Stormi to tackle. I ended up having the summer flu that day, and missed the entire race.
It showed up on Facebook for the second time in 2016. I signed up again. In January, I fell down a flight of stairs, ended up in a boot, and had no option of getting in shape for the race. I began to think this race was cursed for me. I was frustrated. However, the boot finally came off, and I had a month to do what I could to prepare to be “insane.”
I went to 9Round Lenexa for help. Their whole workout concept had me hooked after my first free workout. Not only was I getting my butt kicked thoroughly, but I was having the time of my life doing it! I highly recommend you check them out.
My friend, James, and my favorite 13 year old, Breonna, were determined to keep me on track. They signed up for team Chasing Stormi so we could all be “insane” together. Breonna also went to 9Round with me. Mama Bear made us team shirts. I focused on not getting hurt before the race. James talked smack to make us all laugh.
Race day came. We were dressed and ready to tackle this storm! We got our numbers, I layered up in sunscreen, and my shoes were good to go. James and Breonna teased who would finish first. My main goal was to finish without passing out before I reached the finish line. We noticed that the obstacles were spread out and not one large obstacle. This turned out to be a good thing.
The horn blew, and we were off! Breonna took the lead. I was impressed at my ability to quickly climb the top of the first inflatable mountain. I knew I had 9Round to thank! James, being the awesome person he is, slowed down to keep me company at my slower pace. “No man left behind!” he said. “Oh I am not getting left anywhere,” I responded. I was finishing this thing no matter what!
Despite his entertainment of hiding to jump out and scare me, and pushing whatever obstacle he could in my path to slow me down, we still managed to catch up to Breonna all the same. She, too, slowed down so we could finish together. We may have been slower than some, but we were having the best time being “insane.”
The obstacles are no joke. They were spaced out so you could walk and collect your energy in between. I am pretty sure that my previous dancer grace had taken a vacation that day. However, I did not skip a single obstacle, no matter how many times I fell down, or how long it took me to complete it. James and Breonna cheered me on the whole way. James ran around to take pictures of me finishing, showing others of my accomplishment. Breonna cheered us both on all of the way to the very end. I was proud of my team. I was proud of myself. Just more proof that being “insane” is not a bad thing. This is a good thing since I earned that label very early in life….Ha!
Today, my fire gained fuel. I sat, with great pride and love, in the living room of the original Storm Chaser. I starred, in awe, at the beautiful face that held ornery eyes that would never age. Meet Nana. A woman that has greatly shaped me into the Storm Chaser I am today. She is the original.
A personal storm came out of nowhere when I was least expecting it. Right after graduation, I received a letter that would shatter the world as I knew it. A letter that stated I owed Park University over $1,000, and I was not allowed to get my grads or return to school until the balance was paid in full. I fell to the floor and cried. I was currently unemployed, and $1,000 plus dollars refused to fall from the sky all summer despite how hard I tried.
I have tried everything all summer long. Friends and family are trying to help, however, every time the money starts to collect “life happens.” My chest would ache where my heart seemed to no longer be located. I finally know what I want to be when I grow up! And now, I am at a standstill until life finally decides to give me a break.
Why $1,000 plus dollars? This is the really awesome part. When financial aid got split between two schools, I spent all semester talking to both Park and JCCC to make sure that everything was going like it should since I had never split between schools before. I was assured it was. The bill is for taking an extra class. My Park advisor enrolled me in an extra class that was not covered by financial aid, because she saw the amount going towards JCCC thinking it was still available for use. Now I am stuck with a very heavy bill.
Time is against me. Since May 25th, the storm came and swallowed my heart and soul whole. I haven’t felt this terrible since I was told I would never dance again. Something that had been a major part of my identity for the majority of my life was ripped away from me. Suddenly, I had become lost beyond words. All because of a single turn and a knee cap that wanted to go its own way. It was happening again. I was lost. Until two days ago.
The shell is different, but this sassy Storm Chaser arrived on Friday for the first time since I graduated. “Hello old friend,” I said smiling in the mirror. I am not sure why she is back right now when there are no answers or solutions in sight just yet, but I welcome her all the same. My shoes are still laced. I am still chasing the same storm. However, now I have heart and soul again and it feels so much better. I may or may not be able to return this Fall, but the fire has returned to fight the storm a lot better. We will see what the future holds. But today, this sassy Storm Chaser is here to rule, and hopefully is here to stay.
She laced up.
She faced the storm head on.
She conquered her struggles.
She stopped to enjoy the rain, then began to chase once more.
For she is a Storm Chaser, unstoppable and beautiful.
She is amazing beyond words, because she is You.
The storm is here.
The rain plummets the ground, and the sky erupts with light and sound. Life has you feeling like you're ready to drown.
Do you go hide under the covers until it is all done? Or do you grab your shoes, lace them up, and get ready to run?...
You are many things Storm Chaser….
You are NOT the following….
Stop focusing on what you are NOT, and focus on what you are meant to be. The positive force that comes to remove all negativity. A Storm Chaser. The best thing anyone could possibly want to be! Are your shoes laced up?....Because it is time to run once more. Let’s do this!
When you take medications that you can't live without, and it causes you to forever gain weight, it's a miracle if you can lose any weight at all. Although I am terrible and cheat more than I should, I have managed to lose 20 lbs. Good days or bad days, my laces are tied. I WILL keep chasing this storm to healthiness no matter how slow I run. For I am a Storm Chaser, and that's how we roll!
There are many things to celebrate tomorrow. It is the celebration of our great nation, and the freedom that we earned. It is a time to spend with family and friends, while enjoying the act of blowing things up. It is also a great day to celebrate YOUR freedom and independence. So go on girl! Go celebrate YOU!
Storms come in various degrees. Some storms are exciting. Some storms are annoying more than anything else. Other storms bring you to your knees. How are you supposed to get off your knees?
I realize this is easier said than done. Personally, I’m still repeating Step 5 at the moment. I know things are not easy right now. My own brain is protesting against me, making my body weak and unsteady to move. However, I am a Storm Chaser.
If life were meant to be easy, then I would never be satisfied. Boredom is not my style. Some days I am only able to get my shoes on with nothing more. Other days I am able to stand, and even breathe. Lately, I feel like I have not been able to get a foot slid before me in order to redo my laces.
There’s nothing wrong with being weak. There is nothing wrong with admitting it either. There also is nothing wrong with asking for help. However, no storm ever defines you. It only strengthens you, even if it doesn’t feel like in in the moment.
You are not only an amazing human being, but you are not alone. We are meant to struggle, because we are strong enough to handle it while helping others. So here goes….sliding one foot in front to tie my shoe laces again….
I have never really understood why we had to fit our lives into a box. The box I am speaking about is the check box on forms; race, color, gender, marital status. Ah yes, that glorious “marital status” section of all forms. The box where you declare if you are: Single/Married/Widowed/Divorced.
Divorced- a term to state “freedom” for some, “fail” for others. No matter if you chose to get divorced, or if it was chosen for you, someone is typically hurt in the process. So why should I have to be reminded of a bad couple of marriages, because you refuse to let me label myself as “single” instead?
Well guess what?.... I’m doing it anyway. That is the label I earned when the papers were finalized. You do not get to determine if I am labeled as walking away from a bad marriage (or two). Only I get to decide what happens to me after my marriages. I became Single.
Single to determine my own future. Single to put myself first. Single to love myself without anyone else’s approval. Single to try new things. Single to get uncomfortable and meet new people. Single to open my heart back up and see what the world has to hold. Single to be a Storm Chaser and conquer any storm.
So, if you are expecting me to check the box labeled “Divorced,” you will forever be waiting. I am Single; and I am LOVING IT!
Being single is not always easy. Many times we lose our way. We let life defeat us. We lose confidence. We forget that we are Storm Chasers, and all that we are truly capable of. However, my BFF Storm Chaser is here to save us all!
It is hard when life wins to the point that you can’t feel good about yourself. For me, it is much needed medication that causes massive weight gain. It is hard to stay inspired to change for the better when you know you are just going to lose the battle anyway.
Surviving a marriage that took away everything that I used to be, I was lost. I was a size 16. I hated clothes shopping. It was a depressing chore. Sometimes it still is. I get sick more often than not. My body is not in shape to fight what is thrown my way, and my heart and head had gotten to the point where it quite frankly doesn’t care.
It was time to put my running shoes back on and chase this storm. It was time to no longer let it win.
It has been over two years since my adventures began. I started to struggle to get through them simply because my body wasn’t able to.
My BFF felt the exact same. We had forgotten our capabilities. We had let the struggle of life win. We wanted to get healthy, and feel good about ourselves. We wanted to beat this storm. So we decided to do just that.
I have not exactly been too successful yet. First I fell down a flight of stairs that put my ankle in a boot. This did nothing but discourage me. My BFF encouraged me to hold on. We would get there.
It took FOREVER to get the dang thing off! However, I wanted her to begin, even if it meant I would be behind. She put on her running shoes, and made the storm calm without much fighting at all.
As you can see, she was struggling just like me. However, her determination was even stronger than what I desired to accomplish. She posted her journey on Facebook in order to remind us all…Storm chasing isn’t always easy, but we are capable of #SurvivingOurStorms.
One of the things I love the most about this woman is her character. She is encouraging, sweet, patience, loving, and more! Even on her worst days, she was cheering me on as if I was more of a priority than her. That’s probably why she’s my BFF.
Yes, she’s just as smoking hot as ever, but it’s not about getting skinny. That’s just a bonus. The fire that resides in her is so inspiring; you can’t help but want to be just like her. Her determination puts you in constant awe. Her support makes your heart want to burst from the love for her.
We share our struggles now that I am a member of 9Round. I have let depression win occasionally, and she has helped me get through it to get my butt back into class. Although I can’t seem to beat the habit of sneaking ice cream, she still cheers me on and lectures me to stay on point.
My progress is slower. Probably from the ice cream, but we’re not going to talk about that…ha! However, I now fit into my size 14 skinny jeans. A feeling of accomplishment that is overwhelming has emerged. It’s not about losing weight. That is just an added bonus. The first time I went, I could not even make it to round 4 without quitting. I quickly made it through 9 every time! Some days I am less successful. Sometimes I have to take fewer breaks. Sometimes I feel like I will never get finished.
Then I think of my BFF. Successful with her determination to find herself, and I push myself to get through each round no matter what! Even though 9Round is my favorite exercise program EVER, I still have a habit of letting depression win. I have a habit of not pushing myself through that front door, knowing that I cannot use any of my excuses to avoid feeling better.
However, my BFF always comes to the rescue with encouraging words, and the ability to always be there for me.
There are other Storm Chasers that are determined to keep me on track. Even my favorite 13 year old takes the ice cream away when she’s with me, and gives me something healthy instead. Another friend is nothing but supportive, and I can’t help but love his determination for my success. They make sure that healthy choices are made even when we eat out. I get lectured and pushed to get my dang feet through that front door. They workout with me, and help me stay on track. They know how much I desire to be healthy, ice cream monster or not!
Surviving storms is not always easy. However, you would be surprised how much support is out there for you when you need it most. Even though I struggle a lot these days, I am always here to struggle and survive with you. It’s time to put those running shoes on. It’s time to remember how good it feels to be Storm Chasers!
Uber. A way to ride around town when you don’t have a car, have had too much to drink, or simply cannot drive yourself. It is also a way for drivers to earn some extra cash on their own terms. However, do you know who your Uber Driver is?
A concept that was spoke about often, but never tried. In a time when extra cash was needed to help pay for school, I decided to see what the craze was all about.
After a very vigorous background check, and more hoops to jump through than any previous job I have had, I was given the forms and stickers to get on the road. Although I knew how thorough they had been with me, are they thorough at all about who gets in your car?
This girl is not frail, but she is a girl all the same. I was uneasy about what this “job” had in store for me. I was definitely going to be uncomfortable! So off I went.
The first rider was naturally nerve wracking for me. The second rider was more fun. Then I was hooked. Kansas City is FULL of various characters. This adventure was definitely going to have me meet them all…
Some are from out of town and ask for the best of Kansas City. Some want you to log off and come party with them because they love you that much. Some are quiet and don’t speak at all. Some tell you about their lives without breathing at all. Some require you to put on your super hero cape as you attempt to get them home without valid details. Some, you just hope fall asleep so they don’t throw up in your car.
Others teach me about careers that I never knew existed. Some give me life advice that I use! Some are unhappy and try to make you unhappy as well just to feel better. Others unknowingly learn about the ASL culture, because they happened to ask the question that opens the door.
Some laugh and say you’re amazing for your ability to entertain. Others sing to the radio with you and show you new car dancing moves. Some even give college and career advice. They teach you of what is to come. Yes, Kansas City carries many interesting characters whether residents or simply visitors.
However, do you know your Uber Driver? They are just as fascinating, and they only get rated without their stories being told.
Some are struggling college students trying to make some extra cash. Some are simply trying to make ends meet. Some love it so much it’s their only job they want. Some simply love the extra cash on the schedule they choose to have. Some are bloggers curious to see what the hype is all about. Sometimes your Uber Driver is a little of all of these.
Just like any career, there are people that put a bad taste in your mouth. They ruin your experience, making it hard to do it again. Some are talkers. Some are not. However, many of the drivers are just as fascinating as the characters of Kansas City.
A job that was just to be a quick and easy way to make money, while also being a Chasing Stormi Adventure, became even more than that.
I was reminded of how many characters the world holds. I was reminded of where hidden treasures were in the Kansas City area. I learned that it’s fun to make money playing chauffer. I learned how easy to help make ends meet, simply by swiping the “online” button to the right. I now know the fascination is on both sides. I know that I might learn as much from the driver as I do from my riders. So do you know your Uber Driver? Are you curious to see how much character THEY hold? I dare you to get uncomfortable and find out. You might learn something.
A girl just trying to find her way, stepping outside of her comfort zone, trying new things, and making new friends along the way!