When it comes to independence, I’m the type of gal who likes to prove how independent I am (this likely comes from the fact that I’m 20 years old but still). I do not like depending on other people. I need to know that whatever happens in anyone else’s life, I take care of myself. I hate seeing lovely and strong women feeling less than that because somebody decided to leave their life. These are women who have all the tools at their disposal to take care of themselves, but instead allow someone else to do it for them. I don’t care how much you love someone, if you do not have a handle on your personal affairs, you are not independent.
Which is fine! I never want to say that someone else’s lifestyle doesn’t work because I don’t think it does. However, this month is about fostering independence in yourself, and as we all strive to become classy women, part of that is knowing you are the only one handling your business.
My suggestion to the ladies reading this? Take a couple minutes out of your day and write down everything logical that you need taken care of (whether you’ve handled it or not): bills, groceries, cleaning, any health issues, broken things around the house, beauty, hair, and skin care (yes I did phrase it that way just so it would rhyme), etc. That all needs to be handled before you can be happy.
Happiness is so important!! If you are not happy in your life, something is wrong. We all deserve to have light in our lives and part of that comes from releasing the pressure of not needing to owe anybody anything. If there is anything on that list that someone else is taking care of for you on a consistent basis
- because God knows everyone needs help sometimes - find one little way today to put it back in your control.
Not everyone is as much of a control freak as I am, I’m aware of that, but knowing that I can take care of myself fully, without needing anyone, releases me from feeling desperate and stressed and allows me to fully enjoy my own life.
Classiness is when a woman has everything to flaunt, but chooses not to show it. I believe that also applies to healthy independence. If you have a handle on all your personal issues, you have space in your life to open up to anything else you feel you are lacking: love, friendship, travel, culture, education, anything. Why would you let someone else have that control over you when you are fully capable of
doing it yourself? Because I promise that you are.
**If someone is telling you that you are not capable, kick that asshole to the curb using your best boots because you are powerful, you are strong, you are independent.**
Only once you have a grasp on your personal necessities can you truly begin to enjoy the life that has been given to you. So get creative and stay classy.