The Golden Girls taught us early on that you are never too old to make the best girlfriends in the world that would see you through any storm. The theme song reminded us to always remember to tell them, “Thank You for Being a Friend”. Later, of course, came the storm chasing women of Sex in the City that taught us that even in the big apple, you were still capable of finding the kind of friends that would last you a lifetime. Now The Bold Type is reminding us that even during our craziest times in our early twenties, our friends still give us the support we need to survive our windiest of days.
You see, everyone has different degrees of friendships with the people in their lives. There are the occasional networking buddies that are good for a quick pinch. There are friends that we lose touch with due to life getting in the way, but we can always pick up the phone no matter how long it has been and pick up right where you left off. There are friends that come over to emergency pet sit and fill your kitchen with food because they know you won’t be able to even do that once you return. There are friends that will inspire you to challenge yourself even when you are too scared to do it for yourself. There are friends that you can laugh about your dating adventures with and they won’t judge you for the choices you make, but rather cheer you on because that’s what you need most sometimes. There are friends that will bail you out of jail with no questions, and bring the shovel to help you hide the body. There are friends that will give you the needed hug and let you sob your eyes out without questions or judgements, and simply ask who they need to put on their hit list. There are friends that help you job search without even being asked because they want to see you succeed. There are even friends that will dare to disagree with you knowing you need another point of view to see. There are friends that will show up with clothes to help you get through your walk of shame before work. There are friends that will make you double over in pain from laughing so hard. There are friends that will simply hand you that much needed drink. There are friends that would do anything for you. There are friends that fall into more than one of these categories.
Regardless of the degree of your friendship, July 30th is International Friendship Day. So whether you talked to them 5 seconds ago, or haven’t spoken in years, let’s give our friends the credit that they are due for putting up with all of our shenanigans and remember to tell them, “Thank you for being a friend”.
Sometimes we have to put more faith in the Universal Intelligence, but we also need to put more faith in ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the single life. There’s nothing wrong with being in a loving relationship. We cannot live in fear that the personal storms founded by old habits will cause us to lose who we truly are just because we move from one status to another. Life is forever changing. The only true issue is doing something the same way and expecting a different result. That’s simply the definition of insanity, and we are Storm Chaser who always conquers our personal storms.
However, in order to do so successfully we have to be flexible and open to change. So have faith in yourself without assuming the worst. Easier said than done, I know for a fact. But sometimes it’s as simple as allowing yourself to have some sprinkles on your vanilla ice cream, because sprinkles always add color in a million different possible ways. The end result is always more enjoyable, even though it may not be able to last for an eternity. But allowing you true bliss even if there’s no guarantee how long it will last is always worth it. So please, allow yourself to be happy. Don’t forget the sprinkles!